Watching the kids while W goes to OM

[lynn97]

Wouldn't a day or two of going dark help here?

This does seem a little harsh to me, and sounds more harsh than I would be. Is that an intentional 180? Plus I think the reason she wants to talk is both because she wants me to hear her out. She's used me as her sounding board for years and wants to continue it. She wants me to hang on the line as a "friend" which I can't do. Shouldn't I work that in? She doesn't want to discuss the marriage at all. What about.

"There's no reason to talk. You've chosen to bring another man into our relationship. I'm very willing to work on our relationship problems. I'm also willing to work on myself and help you grow as a person too. But there is no point while you're dating another person.

I do appreciate the apology for the tone, and I'm sorry about that too. See you Saturday."

It needs help and is probably too long, but the ideas are there.

Wait why would I initiate the talk? How do I know when I'm ready? This seems like a control tactic that she's going to see through since it's one of her (and her C) big issues with me. It breaks her independance thing. I'm worried it will be counterproductive.

Lynn