Hi Momo,

thanks for stopping by. When I started this thread, my intention had been to let my R dance before my eyes so I could see the good and the bad and choose what to leave behind and what to hold onto. I realize this isn't history repeating itself and I wouldn't be content if it were.

Perhaps I'm holding on more than I care to admit, in which case your words are timely.

I agree about cleansing the living space. I thought I'd lose my mind before I got out of our house. Now that I'm in my new place, I'm so much more comfortable. Her letters, along with a few photos and a book she made me, are the only items explicitly tied to her that I have kept. Everything else was left behind.

Perhaps it's wrong for me to be a friend to her when she's willing to take advantage of that, but it's a decision I decided to make and will let it play out for the moment. My intention had been to take the high road in order to ease tension since I wasn't very good at doing things like going dark - felt too much like a game.

France sounds fun! Enjoy your trip. lodo


Divorced: 10/26/08