Wandering Poster - Two Dozen

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Jeff! (Oh, you're in bed, right?)
So you said...

Your question abou the elephant is good. I have been going with the act as if I don't even notice what whe is doing method. As though what she is doing doesn't concern me.

.. is that acting "as if" in a DB sense ? Because from following your thread it seems you have been taking this approach for AGES and ages... I understand what you're saying, but nothing is changing and so maybe its time to try something different, as the good book says? If you give something 3-4 weeks (?) and see baby steps, keep doing what you are doing, else try something else?

How about, saying to her, so, I had a good time when I was away. If she doesnt respond, tell her what you did anyway..Next time you ask her how her day was and she just says "Ok", try again, ask her what happened at work today, did she have a nice lunch? Dont just let her leave it at "OK".

I'm saying, as an outsider, your sitch seems kind of stuck, but if you change the way you behave toward people, it changes the way they are with you, right?

I'm the only person here poking you. So, back to food.. I just had 3 rounds of marmite toast and I'm one happy Ali.

Ali xxx