My guess is the reason you love doing things for OM is he's feeding you something in return. You said you didn't want appreciation, but I'm sure he was doing something that "fed" you. If he didn't, you wouldn't be so addicted to him....
As far as not really wanting to do things for H... well, most people don't give a rat's @ss about what they have. It's only when they don't have it that they realize it's value. Your car, your home, your job... they are just there. If you didn't have them that's what you'd be striving for...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
