All I can do is offer advice based on my sitch, but I think this sounds perfectly scripted.
My W melted down at one point and moved back in - it's all in my threads. She just couldn't put any energy into making things better in R. Why? Involvement with OM! Finally she moved back out, said she couldn't deny her feelings. It took 5 hours for her to move out - she kept going back and forth about staying or leaving. Finally she said she was messed up and needed to see IC. So she moved out and said she'd call after C appt.
Well, that C appt. was what has brought our sitch to where it is. He told her that OM sounded like a muse for her. Pressured her to make a decision and deal with the consequences. Reminded her that CA had a 6 month waiting period for D, so if I was really dedicated to her, she could try OM and then come back to me if it didn't work.
So she asked me to wait 6 months and I said no. D followed. Currently, R with OM seems to be off and she's definitely coming back to me as much as she can. She's still set on D, so who knows what will happen. Would I take her back at this point? Good question - I've seen a pretty ugly side of her.
Does any of this sink in? I feel like it'd be good for you to hear. You can certainly read it in my threads. But just because a C says something doesn't mean it's true. In many cases, what a C says just makes things exponentially worse.
