Watching the kids while W goes to OM

[lynn97]

Well the bomb got dropped, but it wasn't by me. I must say that I wasn't prepared for this one at all.

W had her counseling appointment today. She came back from it and we talked. I focused on listening and then I was going to have "my talk". Well I didn't need to. Her counselor told her she was doing great. She was showing independence and not letting anyone push her around. She thought that it was good she was taking it slow with the OM and that it was good for her to explore her feelings for her. She thought that I was wrong for trying to control her last night (which I was) and thought that we should talk or see each other anymore. I only confuse her and try to control and manipulate her. OM listen and doesn't try to manipulate her. OM is better and you should go for it.

I listened, reaffirmed what she had said. Said I would pick up the kids on Saturday, went in and gave them a hug and a kiss and left.

Maybe they are right for each other and I should get out of the way. This doesn't seem like a normal affair where the two people take it slow and work out thier problems before the go to fast. She said were separated and it's not an affair anymore, it's a relationship.

She basically just told me to do LRT, I doubt it's going to have any effect on her. I didn't go into telling her that she needs to end it because it seemed pointless. She just said she was going to go down that road and it was over between us.

So besides LRT and GAL what am I supposed to do? Seems like the affair is full steam ahead and I'm having a hard time thinking I want to save it.

Lynn