O.k. My H and I are still piecing since May 5th '08. Things have been going o.k. When we are alone and together things are fabulous. But when we get out and about or are apart things get a bit tricky.
I am dealing with a lot of issues with in our M. H is still living in his apartment and apparently plans on staying there a while. It is good to take things slow, but I also like to see hope for a future move and he seems skidish.
My H has turned into an extreme alcoholic, and is drinking out at the town bars about 5-6 nights a week. This is very difficult to deal with and get used to. We always used to only go to bars together on the weekends with our friends that he now wants nothing to do with them. I am constantly torn between doing things with his new friends or hanging with my group of friends that he rejected after 13+ years of hanging out with in the past.
He rejects me often to hang at the bars or with his new younger buddies from his new band.
He will not come to any more family events or holiday gatherings wiht my side of the family becuase he hates my older brother.
I know I cannot control my H but I love him and want this to work. I am looking for any advice as to how to create some positive changes within my H.
I already have learned to GAL to the max. So I am already doing my own things - it just seems like he is too disintersted at times to want to choose being with me rather than at the bar. ANY ADVISE??? TIPPER
