Trying Hard to Detach

[addie]

This is classic Tough Love. I have set boundaries. She has no desire to live within them. If she changes her mind then we can talk about it but I firmly am done with the person as she is now. I have inproved myself quite a bit since the whole thing started. On a physical, mental, spiritual and emotional level I am better and stronger. I feel that this new strength has helped me to GAL and walk away. I am not the needy desperate clingy person that I was in March. I am not happy about this but I can see that a year from now that I will thank her for the D. I havent been able to enjoy life or even breathe for a long time because of the oppression at home.
I am no longer trying hard to detach. I am there and it is a much better place. I feel that truly accepting the D and truly detaching are key steps to not only DBing - but also to preparing myself for the post D.

Eagle, you have really grown. Your strength comes through in your posts. What you are doing is what Michelle calls After the Last Resort Technique. You should only do this if you can not continue on with your current sitch and are prepared that your M may end. It sounds like you are emotionally prepared that your M may end.
Good luck to you, Eagle!