Bring on the Rain - Part 3

[SueS]

My H would be one of those H's who, if he so decided, would think he could just come back if he wanted. No work for him to do, HE is fine. I know in my heart that he thinks "Oh I could go back anytime", just blending back into my world.

lwb- This was our problem the last time. After his first A, there was no counseling, no real talk about it....nothing. He just asked to reconcile & we moved on.

I wonder if your H is shocked that your 'new' world has no plans to have him involved?

I think this is right on the money. He thought he'd be the one making all the moves on this deal. You know it hasn't been an easy road for me to go down, but here I am. I warned him back in Feb. that I was stronger than he ever gave me credit for.

Wow, your H will scramble now. He is going to have to make good on all the promises to OW, and face the cold hard truth that Sue is moving on, and basically taking D4 with her. Wow. You might see some serious lashing out soon.

Yes he will. If he actually follows through with moving in with her, I can guarantee that he has a lot of promises to her just sitting there waiting to be fulfilled. All our marriage he promised big things. He could just never keep any of them. Not even a small one about being home on time! And yes, I hear ya on the lashing out. I've been waiting for that to happen. The comments about how Sue talked about wanting to keep the marriage together and now she's the one doing everything to pull it apart (an apt. lease, moving boxes, wanting to talk about the seperation...etc.). Who knows what else.

LO- Did you, lwb and I marry men that were seperated at birth? They just seem to do a lot of the same things.

SueS

.......forgot to add to an earlier post that H has started to bring up how he'd love to live in CA again. His mind is wandering.