Julia I have read your entire thread and I have to say that I am impressed with your patience and more so with your STANDING for your marriage. If you know what you want, that your heart desires your H then continue STANDING. Continue to listen to Twindad he seems to have a lot of good advice from his experience plus you get a guys POV. I myself am a little surprised that your H as put on weight, but everyone reacts differently in these situations. When my W left 2 months ago I have since lost 20lbs. in which she has really noticed and has commented on several times, but enough about me. I do agree with LolaL, you are doing fabulous!!! Hang in there, remember baby steps, and the big picture. If you find yourself wondering sometimes on what to do I would re-read which ever chapters in DR appeal to you. As you progress with H and continue to take stock/check yourself you should be able to gage how far you've come. Good luck and the best of wishes to you!
