5 yr DBer, "Joint" D now in progress

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Emotionally, I'm feeling like a roller coaster right now. H is still trying to manipulate me in one way or the other. He needs $6K in dental work done since he hasn't taken regular care of his teeth(yes- it's that bad) and he was trying to give me this sob story today about how he made the appointment at the dentist, but has no money to pay for it, so what is he going to do. He is in constant pain now. I do feel sorry for him. It's sad to watch him go downhill. For years, I asked him to brush his teeth regularly. H has a daily pot habit and has lost more weight- he's actually looking unhealthily thin now, because he doesn't want to eat much. I asked him to go to the doctor, too- but he doesn't think he has to. He hasn't gone in 2 yrs. The last time we visited his parents, his mother almost cried looking at him. Ok- this is the stuff that is heart wrenching. To watch a person you care about fall apart so much. My sister is an alcoholic, so I should be used to it. He really needs to go to NA- but he won't admit he has a drug problem. He's got a knee injury and acid reflux so he claims it's his "medicine" His family doesn't really know about the drugs, they just think he's stressed out and having career problems. I told him I can't pay for his dentist appt, I really don't have the money anyway. It's been a stressful financial burden for me to try to pay for both of us these last few years, because I'm not really making enough to support 2 people and a house by myself. I'm not sure if he's just trying to get some kind money from me or make me feel sorry for him. He still wants the D 100% and is anxious to get on with his life.