My H would be one of those H's who, if he so decided, would think he could just come back if he wanted. No work for him to do, HE is fine. I know in my heart that he thinks "Oh I could go back anytime", just blending back into my world. I wonder if your H is shocked that your 'new' world has no plans to have him involved?

Wow, your H will scramble now. He is going to have to make good on all the promises to OW, and face the cold hard truth that Sue is moving on, and basically taking D4 with her. Wow. You might see some serious lashing out soon.