infidelity

[hoosiermama]

Thank you again. I think you must know him!! Yep, it's all about the ego for him--and really, this whole MLC has been about feeding his inflated ego. In retrospect, I think the seeds were planted about 6 months ago when he essentially got screwed in his old job--just happened to be in the way when a VP was looking to vaporize another person in his department, and she had no problems jerking him around in the process. That was very humiliating. I was as supportive as I know how to be at the time (altho he doesn't remember any of that), gave wise advice and reality checks when he was having anxiety attacks. Not long after, he was approached about a corresponding position at a competing facility and he jumped at it, getting a lot of affirmation in the process. And the rest is history--it seemed to set off a chain of ego-feeding, narcissistic behavior.

The thing is, I don't think folks know what's going on. I think he realizes that there are significant risks. Those who do know have cut me off--so I imagine he has made sure I'm at fault in their eyes.

Forgiveness has never been my strong suit. Not that I haven't wanted to be forgiving, just can't always accomplish it. I also have a history of being so compassionate with him that I lose myself (comes from being an ACOA) so as this progresses--if this progresses--I will need to work on good boundaries.

Glad you like "hoosiermama!" Must have just been a flash of inspiration.