mc - I'm new here and didn't/don't know your whole sitch. But I am sorry you are filed now. I'm divorced, and it totally stinks. I am happy now though, and I'm sure you will be again one day too.
Just wanted to lend support as I remember that day when I was offically divorced, and my girlfriends and I went out to "celebrate" with a few drinks...and even though I thought I would really be into this silly celebration, I broke down again.
Lucky for me, that was truly the last time I broke down.
One day, you will break down, and then it will be the last time you ever do it. Hopefully that day is either soon or has already happened.