Mike's got a lot of good stuff going your way. I have a 2 x 4 in my hands right now, so find those boot straps fast buddy.
You probably don't want to go looking into pap smears, it'll probably give you all sorts of things to worry about that you don't need to. Googling it can be a frightening experience. Trust me. It's totally normal for your wife to turn to a female in time of female stuff. I've never discussed my pap details with H. I just basically said, "well they did another test & it's not great". Then I called my mom, cried, & we hashed it all over 14 different directions.
Don't make too much out of the ILY not being on the card. She may have thought it over for 20 minutes before deciding not to. You don't know.
Right now, rather than being grey, I'd call her once today, once tomorrow, just to ask how she's doing & if she wants to talk. Just be light, tell her you're thinking of her, & know this is a hard time for her. (it is for you too, but you've got all of us pulling for you, & she's got you, know what I mean ?)
I hope she accepts the dinner invite, but if she doesn't, it may not mean she doesn't want to be around you. It may be too emotional for her with D's biopsy on Friday. Okay.
If you wanna talk more, you know where to find me. xoxo
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
