because H just seems to want me to get over it asap.!
oh yea, that's their modus operandi, "move away folks, nothing to see here". Yea, if only it where that easy, to him, it wans't and it will never will be as awful of a punch as it is to you.
There is being guilty and being sorry, his lack of remorse is that part of him that wants to excuse the As, that's why there is no remorse, the As were a refuge in la-la land and an exciting adventure, so, he feels no sorrow, because at the time he was having a good time, he doesn't understand just how much that knowledge hurts you.
Don't try to extract heartfelt apologies from him, as he said, if he was truly sorry he would've stopped, but somewhere along the way the good man he was was lost. I was told not to try to seek solace from my cheating stbx, it is like a victim trying to get consolation from his abuser.
Why on earth would you feel guilty? the man cheated numerous times,and sadly, S seems the best answer. For a while, while my stbx went back and forth to ow he'd tell me "let's separate, I dont' want to hurt you" but I kept talking him into trying again, he just didnt' have the balls to tell me that while he was staying he wasnt' strong/willing to cut it out completely with ow. My trying to keep him just prolonged my agony and I was subjected to more indignities and lies.
You will have a great life, he's lost a chance to be with a good woman, will keep you in my prayers, it's a hard road to recovery and every now and then the whole thing will come crashing down on you, but remember, you will feel much better after a good cry, you will be ok)))))))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
