There are two kinds of being me. The ME I develop. And The ME that just is.
I have developed a comfort level with taking responsibility for the good and the bad that I develop that is in my control. As we got older, some of my friends are more successful professionally that others. And your group changes and shifts to those that are at your level - whatever that may be. And really compromising your standards against your better judgement leads to issues like PC. There is backstabbing and jealousy.
This is a little difference b/c really it is luck of the draw. But once again, it is all about accepting life's filter. I need to be me. And let that operate as a natural filter.
Alcohol can be an excuse to be stupid and yes, sometimes H's in the neighborhood say things that annoy their W's when they drink at parties and that means I get the backlash.
And there was a poster that posted that I whined about my appearance and played the victim b/c I didn't know if the men that were attracted to me were for me or my appearance. She was right - no so constructive how she presented the statement but there is an element of truth to it.
And really can a millionaire really tell if the P wants them for their money or love.
This dynamics is true for everyone on some level. All initial attraction is physical in the beginning. I myself want that. There has to be chemistry to go to the next level. And everyone has people that are attracted to them that they aren't attracted to and the other way around.
Male Patent Girlfriend said that you have to lower your guard to a reasonable level - b/c the "good" men will respect a woman's boundaries and the freaky ones are clueless and are the only ones that will approach a woman with overkill boundaries. And since they are clueless about the concept of boundaries - they will ignore your boundaries and even through they are too high - you have to fight harder to maintain them.
As for the catty women. They will talk no matter what I do or say. So what is the point of diminishing myself. So from now on - I am going to be me and let the chips fall where they will.
I have been wanting to go classier with my wardrobe for awhile anyway. I need my comfortable cotton for gardening and working. But when I go out - it will be classy casual.
This deciding to date thing is not so bad after all. And no. I won't pretend to be a flight attendent at the party. I will be open minded and relaxed and freak out if I meet someone single that appeals to me.
