No no no I love you's. Thats one of Michele's big no no's. Your W already knows you love her, and when you keep saying it, it makes her pull further away because she does not feel it right now. Wait until she brings it up.
No don't point anything out. The key is to let them notice.
One of the biggest things I have learned is you can't make anyone do something they don't want. But human nature is relatively predictable. I didn't think this until I had a huge fight with my H, thought it was definitely the end, and quit contacting him so we wouldn't fight anymore. Things are coming around. But he accused me of being a control freak, and I had to realize that part of me was.
I resolved this by telling myself the relationship that we had is over. That doesn't mean that in the future, there cannot be a new relationship.
You don't have to toss your cards. Shoot, I have every email my H has sent me since we separated, and ironically enough, he has a folder for all of mine. (I discovered that by accident).
If you go with the flow and don't try to force things, it takes time, but the end result is so well worth it.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
