Honestly, it won't happen overnight. It takes time. Just be consistent, and not just going through the motions, but actually continuing on. In the beginning, sometimes it seems hopeless. But as your W starts to see the changes, and she will, and see that they are consistent, she will start to think...hmmmmm....
So no telling her she looks beautiful and saying i love you etc? just keep to my new positive behaviors?
here's another one, she wants our laptop so she can have "her own" she thinks i am holding out so i can check on her. truth is i have caught her checking the sites i have visited, and she checked my profile on facebook.. she expects me to delay fixing our main PC.. i guess i should resist, just fix it and give her the laptop eh..
Also i am a sentimental guy.. i kept my grad cards/birthday cards from 20 years ago, recently threw them out.
She knows i have kept some of the cards she gave me over the years.. just hers.. do i toss them like i don't care? Should i make a point that she sees them in the trash? am i that dumb?
