The best thing you can do it to try and let him go because you really dont have him right now anyway.
That really encouraged me that we are doing the right thing. This morning I was feeling very down and guilty about participating in the decision to separate. I suddenly started to feel that maybe separating wasn't the right way to go, and I started to question him about why he couldn't try to work at it. But you are so right broken, I don't have him. He left me a long time ago.
When I saw one of the pastoral team from church today, she explained that H has had a long time to process all this stuff, whereas I have just been hit with a sledgehammer. That's why his main thrust of discussion at the moment is 'how can we be really good friends', but I'm still stuck on 'what have you done?'
He just doesn't seem sorry at all. He's sorry for the hurt telling me caused me, sorry that he didn't speak up when the A started and we only had one child (not 4!), sorry for the inconvenience. But he shows no remorse, that would be 'dishonest'. He doesn't regret it because he loved SASHA and ELSA. I don't feel I have an answer, or a question, because 'Are you sorry?' just elicits 'For some things'.
Maybe 'Do you recognise what you did was wrong?' would be better? But then he might say it wasn't wrong because he was unhappy.
Anyone have experience of a H who is extremely intelligent and manipulative?!
Me:36 M:16 D final: 08/09 Ds:10&5 Ss:8&3 Bomb 3xPA 200 sexual encounters 15/06/08
