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[jon2911]

Update from last night:

I sent her the joking text message, and got back:
W: $200+ what can I do?
- so I guess she didn't understand the joke
W: u like? (w/ sexy pic message)
Me: Yes, VERY much. You know I was kidding about the "conditions". I'll put $200 in the account in a few minutes
W: spousal support so I can get back on my feet again?
Me: Honey, don't need to call it anything. I know you'll be back on your feet soon
W: thank you sweetheart
Me: Money is transferred, I'll be out of the gym at 10:00 if you feel like calling

The last one was a risk, but thought I'd put it out there. You can tell how embarrassed she is about this. I guess it's good she used the "spouse" word, she's avoided that for a while. Also, she's been talking about getting back on her feet for 9 months. Isn't going to happen, but I still wanted to be encouraging.

She called a little later, I asked if her if she's enjoying her birthday bear, she said it's at her grandparents ranch. She couldn't bring it home because her parents are watching her "very closely". She's desperate to move out and is looking for an apartment. I hope that's not what she needed money for, I really don't want her getting a place in Houston. We'll see.

Also found out why she's been dark for a couple weeks. Her sister and boyfriend flew in from New York, and she helped him propose! Put a message up on the scoreboard at an Astros game. This is a smart guy, SIL loves baseball. Also helped get her mom's ring polished, ready, etc. W is awesome with that stuff, and it sounds like it came off perfect. I complemented her on pulling it all off. The grandparents (maternal) are beginning to come around, I'm sure FIL and step-mom are still very opposed to the whole thing. So, more family drama. Hopefully she got to spend time talking to SIL, who's very supportive of our M, goes to the same recovery group I do, etc.

She brought up the bachelor thing again, and I asked her why. She said the last three times she's called me, I've been out late at a noisy place or club (sounded a little ticked about it). I told her I was in Chicago and wanted to have some fun while there. She said she forgot about that, we talked about the trip. She asked if I got a new girlfriend on the trip, I laughed and said no.

So I guess this is good DBing, she can tell I'm having fun and got a little nervous. (So glad I found this site, before I would've probably seen this as a negative).

So, I'm very encouraged. She wasn't just ignoring me, but had a whirlwind of family stuff, and then thought I was out partying all the time.