H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

[happycamper]

iamlost - thanks for the lovely words. H seems to want to skip all the emotional bit and just move on to the working hard at being friends bit. It's lovely to have some encouragement and some people who acknowledge that this must be very hard for me. H just says it is hard for him too.

Although we are not going to tell our families and the children until after our C appt, we did agree that I could tell some of the pastoral team at church. I spoke to one yesterday and one today. Both were very tearful and shocked. That kind of helps too - again because H just seems to want me to get over it asap.