I hear what you are saying, she is growing in her new found independence I truly am happy for her, becoming who she is looking to be; always told her she needed to have a life of her own. Hard to change that mind set as you all know!
Honestly I know what it is AHA! I wasn't prepared for dealing with things that are taken for granted when together, & now that we are separated I feel lost & alone and out of the loop of everyday life. B-days, anniversaries, illnesses, etc...Mike you were so right about this, in one of your last posts but it didn't sink in til now thanks man!
What sucks about gaining their independence, are they going to want to come back to a marriage where they fear not having independence anymore or so they feel its going to be that way?
You dont realize how lost and alone you get until you are actually there and how things were taken for granted. How to explain this to the WAS? I know, you cant, have to show them in other ways.
Im wondering (not to hijack but need input) if I should try to be nice and text to see how W's day is going to start some conversation. Guess that would be like a test to see how W will respond. Been trying my damnest and been doing pretty good at going dark, but think its counterproductive especailly since W is saying I am ignoring her when we need to start putting stuff on paper, not that I really am up to it.
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M-31 W-28 S7 D2.5 T 8, M 4 W filed 2-14-08 D on hold 3/08 D off hold 5/08 D to be final on/by Nov 08 Anniv 9-4 looked hopeful
