The emails are about her talking to her Aunt & a GF about how to handle the sitch with D17, 'normally' she would have 'bared' her feelings to me and that's eating at me just feel 'left out' that it's not my shoulder.
Brian, I don't think it's abnormal for your W to seek out some female understanding from female relatives about Pap Smears, biopsy's and female problems..
Unless of course you're an expert on Pap Smears. LOL You gotta be like me..I know nothing about them or biopsies.
Now is the time for you to listen and learn. Validate and be there for them..
Now, Pick yourself up and dust yourself off..
There's work to be done.
I hear what you are saying, she is growing in her new found independence I truly am happy for her, becoming who she is looking to be; always told her she needed to have a life of her own. Hard to change that mind set as you all know!
Expert? FUNNY! Far from it don't think I want to go there LOL
Honestly I know what it is AHA! I wasn't prepared for dealing with things that are taken for granted when together, & now that we are separated I feel lost & alone and out of the loop of everyday life. B-days, anniversaries, illnesses, etc...Mike you were so right about this, in one of your last posts but it didn't sink in til now thanks man!
an aha moment. priceless.
Now do me a favor, pick up that intercom and call Mr. Smith over in Service and tell him Mike says to go outside and find the biggest piece of lumber that he can and come back inside and begin frailing Brian up side da head with it..lol lol.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off.
It's your B-day, it's time to celebrate. It's time to continue what you have been doing. It's ok that your W knows that D17 has you worried, she is worried also. Listen, Validate. Be a rock.
Go learn more about Pap Smears..lol
Go to work man. You know what to do. Ask no more than twice. Ask her to go. If she says no, then drop it but ask again as your leaving.
No matter what, have fun with those kids tonight. Hell man, it's your B-day. I'm drinking one for you tonight..
Now why would I want to go and do that, gee maybe I will run out in front of a truck while I am at it LOL LOL!!!
It probably wouldn't be a bad idea to research some on it so that I can understand the 'mechanics' of it
Like you said won't beg for it
I will have a good time no matter what and probably have a couple just because, & if she doesn't go I just might flirt with the waitress lol..lol..!
