Jeff, I just wanted to come by and check on you. Sorry your day started off badly. You know maybe she was just looking for validation but you just aren't in a place to give it now. I can see both sides (no I don't appreciate her side with the affair, just this particular situation).
Perhaps it is best wrapped up in a nutshell: you gave everything you had to make your wife feel special and pamperedand she was too immature to see that you were trying to demonstrate your love for her. Maybe two different love languages going on here. I hope she grows up for you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory