I agree with the thought, as horrible as it is, that many, many MCs won't even necessarily discourage the affair. Sad, but true.
Couple that with the fact that MCing is almost never effective while one of the spouses is in an active affair, and the risks, I believe, outweigh the rewards.
Now, ICing, on the other hand, I think can be very beneficial -- for both spouses.
HM, did I read your thread accurately -- both the Church and the hospital at which your H is a chaplain know about his adultery, and are OK with it??? That shocks me, and saddens me as a Catholic.
