But she won't do it while you are secretly *hating* her for being herself as she is now.
I completely agree.
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So how is it supposed to make your wife feel so loved and special that you have high desire?? You would feel high desire for anyone you are attracted to, correct?
I know you said you were oversimplifying.... but I completely disagree with this statement.
I used to be HD~ and think I am underneath all the hurt. I know for sure my hubby is.... but this makes it sound like his Penis is just like a magnet and it is attrtacted to absolutely anything.
And the sad part is I used to feel like that. Believe that about his high drive. It meant I was not special. his drive was his and had nothing to do with me. Like my H would let anyone F*ck him and he wuld F*ck anything that moved....
HD doesnt mesn you have no morals and you cant keep your dick in your pants or your legs closed.
I know you didnt mean it literally but it sort of sounds like you are saying he would be attracted to anything. he wants his Wife to Want him and desire him.. if it were just about sex he xould find that damn well near anywhere.
This is a touchy subject for me cause my H is /was HD~ and he thought that by F8cking wh*res or having EA's he would get his fill or be happy. All he really wanted was to use his HD on me and I felt so ugly and unloved I never thought it was me he needed. I just thought he needed to "come/release" plain and simple.
Very ugly BTW for the so called "~LD" spouse to feel. I am very attractive to other Men and I was just withereng away. I didnt know he was saying I love you and need you by wanting to ML to me.... had I known I would have been the Happiest Woman on Earth. It is almost like there is this switch and once it is turned on you can actually understand what the other has felt for years.
It is very painful no doubt SB.... I give you a hell of alot of credit for being brave enough to talk to your Wife.
Now be brave enough to see that yu need to let go of the anger.. at the same time not be a doormat and find out who you really are. I suppose you are in a haze right now from no Sex..... get centered and take it from there.....
All the anger is possibly poisoning you and for sure your R with your Wife.
