Do I get a drink for the shortest list? I'm just attracted to anyone who likes me. Am I shallow, flippant or just desperate? oh no now I think about it, good manners and a sense of humour not in a slapstick way are important too. One more thing I like them to be breathing. Can you tell I have been alone for far too long.
It is hard for me to quantify what I find attractive. An interesting exercise I did recently was to list all my boyfriends and significant others to find out what they all have/had in common. Good and bad.
They all were (and these are requirements) Smart Funny Artistic in some way (music or art)
But physically there were lots of differences, so I conclude that the attraction is something on the inside.
I found CG quite attractive, but he was not typically what would be considered attractive. What I liked about him was a way of looking me in the eye, and a positivity...that turned out to be just on the surface.
Getting back into the dating game myself I find that it is important to be introspective and willing to work on any problems found within there.
Blaming is a turn-off. If everything is the ex's fault then I don't want to hear about it.
I agree with Karen, a dad who is into his kids is a big turn-on for me.
Responsible, caring, gives back in some way. Connected to the outside world as well as the inner world.
I don't care if he has hair or not. I don't care how tall or short he is. While a comfortable lifestyle is nice, it is more important to me how responsible he is with his money, how much debt he carries and how he handles his obligations...to ex or to children or to the bank.
While I am 50 I like to think that I have the flexible attitude of someone a lot younger. I like to listen to the current stuff on the radio as well as what was popular 20 or 30 years ago. I would like to meet a man who has the same flexible attitude and who is not stuck in the 70s or the 80s...This has been a problem with some of the dates I have gone on...Guys have been very judgemental and inflexible about "kids these days" ...which include 2 of my own!
Well, the breathing requirement! I am not into that necrophilia thing...so ...yeah...breathing would be good! LOL!
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
but what about one of those robots AG was talking about? a fully programmable(sp man----- not sure about that.
The comfortable lifestyle is good. I often joke I look at the wallet before the face now I am a mature lady but in truth it would be a consideration and should I ever decide to marry again (v unlikely very!) I would sort out finances well in advance as what is mine will one day be my childrens and I see problems in this area with people my age quite often.
Like you attitude is another thing. People are always suprized at how old I am, maybe alittle to do with looks but more to do with the fact I think young mostly.I just stayed 22yrs in my head.
Well thank you No_hill, add 30yrs and you,d be spot on. I like the 29 tho! but that would mean I was -4 when I had my daughter.When she was very little and asked where did she live before she came here(born). I always told her she was the twinkle in her daddies eye.
I loved your "prose" list but have you concrete ideals in what you find attractive or do you just like woman in general. I kind of thought you were a mans man. Hope that sounds as I meant it to. Sometimes words mean slightly different in different places.
I like to think that I have the flexible attitude of someone a lot younger. I like to listen to the current stuff on the radio as well as what was popular 20 or 30 years ago. I would like to meet a man who has the same flexible attitude and who is not stuck in the 70s or the 80s...This has been a problem with some of the dates I have gone on...Guys have been very judgemental and inflexible about "kids these days" ...which include 2 of my own!