H4H - you are doing well, but try not to be sucked in "her world" - forget what she may think or want or do. This way of thinking made miracles for me. If she doesn't know what to do I don't think you should have decided for her. It should have been more like "If you want me to come I'll make you the favor to come, otherwise I have better things to do". One thing I found super useful - in a book about relations and seduction etc. - I read that "you fall in love with a person NOT when you are with him, but when you THINK about him". I think this the whole concept behind going dark - You give your partner a bit of your best self, and than let it work out in her brain..... she is going to do all the job by herself, it is like a puzzle, you give her few pieces and she builds the rest of the image in her brain.
