Thank you so much for the out pouring it is very much appreciated. I couldn't agree more with the thoughts you have all echoed, many times those types of test are inconclusive and this is what I had explained to W that without the burden of proof no need to start assuming things until we have the next test results. She seemed to understand that thought process and agreed no reason to blow it out of porportion at this point in time.
Thanks again for all your kind words and prayers, as I told W I believe in my heart that all will be fine.
W sent me a ecard for my birthday which was nice of her she didn't have to. Unfortunately, it was just signed with her name no 'love' before it. I wish she would have just not done it at all only makes it a painful reminder that she doesn't love me anymore. This sucks.
W sent me a ecard for my birthday which was nice of her she didn't have to. Unfortunately, it was just signed with her name no 'love' before it. I wish she would have just not done it at all only makes it a painful reminder that she doesn't love me anymore. This sucks.
Hey man, you got more than I got..Be thankful for it. At least she cared enough to get it for you. Did you EXPECT it to say ILY??
No expectations.
Your under stress right now. Your looking for more than there will be at this moment. During stressful times the mind will wander and make you say and do things you know you should not do.
Stay the path you're on and do not waver.
Brian, if you need to talk..call me or email me.
It does not suck---you're birth day does not suck. Only YOU can make YOUR B-day suck.
W sent me a ecard for my birthday which was nice of her she didn't have to. Unfortunately, it was just signed with her name no 'love' before it. I wish she would have just not done it at all only makes it a painful reminder that she doesn't love me anymore. This sucks.
Hey man, you got more than I got..Be thankful for it. At least she cared enough to get it for you. Did you EXPECT it to say ILY??
No expectations.
Your under stress right now. Your looking for more than there will be at this moment. During stressful times the mind will wander and make you say and do things you know you should not do.
Stay the path you're on and do not waver.
Brian, if you need to talk..call me or email me.
It does not suck---you're birth day does not suck. Only YOU can make YOUR B-day suck.
You asked her to that B-day dinner tonight??
happy Birthday man..love ya-mean it LOL
Yeah I guess I was expecting silly ARS me!
Yes you are right was reading more into the phone convo's than I should have.
On a pity pot today, like everyone here just tired of the work it takes that's all, tired of feeling empty, I know whoa is me dumbars!!!
Wavering, yes I am today, BF wants me to go on a double date this weekend with this GF of the GF he is dating, that wants to meet me I'd be lying if I said it didn't raise my curiousity. abit.
Don't get the wood out I am not doing it that's just stupid!!!
I know I have more going in my favor than most don't get me wrong I am grateful for that it could be alot worse just hurts, guess I have let my detachment go to a low point just whining I will be fine, I understand only I control myself and my mood just remembering birthdays from the past and it won't be that way this year hit me like a ton of bricks this morning.
No I haven't asked her yet, not quite to the point of a happy voice & smile yet today.
W sent me a ecard for my birthday which was nice of her she didn't have to. Unfortunately, it was just signed with her name no 'love' before it. I wish she would have just not done it at all only makes it a painful reminder that she doesn't love me anymore. This sucks.
Hey man, you got more than I got..Be thankful for it. At least she cared enough to get it for you. Did you EXPECT it to say ILY??
No expectations.
Your under stress right now. Your looking for more than there will be at this moment. During stressful times the mind will wander and make you say and do things you know you should not do.
Stay the path you're on and do not waver.
Brian, if you need to talk..call me or email me.
It does not suck---you're birth day does not suck. Only YOU can make YOUR B-day suck.
You asked her to that B-day dinner tonight??
happy Birthday man..love ya-mean it LOL
Yeah I guess I was expecting silly ARS me!
Yes you are right was reading more into the phone convo's than I should have.
On a pity pot today, like everyone here just tired of the work it takes that's all, tired of feeling empty, I know whoa is me dumbars!!!
Wavering, yes I am today, BF wants me to go on a double date this weekend with this GF of the GF he is dating, that wants to meet me I'd be lying if I said it didn't raise my curiousity. abit.
Don't get the wood out I am not doing it that's just stupid!!!
I know I have more going in my favor than most don't get me wrong I am grateful for that it could be alot worse just hurts, guess I have let my detachment go to a low point just whining I will be fine, I understand only I control myself and my mood just remembering birthdays from the past and it won't be that way this year hit me like a ton of bricks this morning.
No I haven't asked her yet, not quite to the point of a happy voice & smile yet today.
Thanks for the birthday wish it means alot
Brian
ah yes..significant occasions, times of stress, anniversaries, B-days..the coaster comes around.
My sitch is a prime example of that.
I don't think you read to much into the phone calls. I think you are right on those. I think she is reaching out.
I just think maybe you thought she might just jump right back in and she won't. Patience, look around, read, you can see all around you on this BB it's gonna take some time.
You're a good man, I know you'll do the right thing about the Double date.
What would the strong "be a rock" type guy do about the dinner tonight if he was in the situation you are in??
Invite her out with you and the kids. You have all gotten news that has you all worried. Why not put that to the side starting now and celebrate today?? You can resume the other stuff tomorrow.
Patience is something I am working on some days better than others. Time is on our side? Time is just another name for our WAS's names and it's just 1 more reminder they are in control at the moment. God I am just FULL of negativity and anger today!! Woke up feeling it can't shake it where is my inner strength? Must find positives...
Mike I hear you really I do. I am not in the 'game' today I am looking for my boot strap's haven't found them yet
W has emailed me a few times today & I'm afraid my mood has shown up in them, haven't really said anything wrong just been short & direct with my responses. But I know she felt it cause she said that she didn't mean to upset me so there's a backslide for the day yippie me (dumb ars!)
"ah yes..significant occasions, times of stress, anniversaries, B-days..the coaster comes around."
Patience is something I am working on some days better than others. Time is on our side? Time is just another name for our WAS's names and it's just 1 more reminder they are in control at the moment. God I am just FULL of negativity and anger today!! Woke up feeling it can't shake it where is my inner strength? Must find positives...
Mike I hear you really I do. I am not in the 'game' today I am looking for my boot strap's haven't found them yet
W has emailed me a few times today & I'm afraid my mood has shown up in them, haven't really said anything wrong just been short & direct with my responses. But I know she felt it cause she said that she didn't mean to upset me so there's a backslide for the day yippie me (dumb ars!)
"ah yes..significant occasions, times of stress, anniversaries, B-days..the coaster comes around."
This pretty much SUMS IT ALL UP!
It's the stress your in right now. The news you got yesterday has you this way.
Let your wife know why your like this today. It's the stress.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off..don't make me get SC and Gypsy over here with the 2x4's
What are the emails about if I may ask??
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Patience is something I am working on some days better than others. Time is on our side? Time is just another name for our WAS's names and it's just 1 more reminder they are in control at the moment. God I am just FULL of negativity and anger today!! Woke up feeling it can't shake it where is my inner strength? Must find positives...
Mike I hear you really I do. I am not in the 'game' today I am looking for my boot strap's haven't found them yet
W has emailed me a few times today & I'm afraid my mood has shown up in them, haven't really said anything wrong just been short & direct with my responses. But I know she felt it cause she said that she didn't mean to upset me so there's a backslide for the day yippie me (dumb ars!)
"ah yes..significant occasions, times of stress, anniversaries, B-days..the coaster comes around."
This pretty much SUMS IT ALL UP!
It's the stress your in right now. The news you got yesterday has you this way.
Let your wife know why your like this today. It's the stress.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off..don't make me get SC and Gypsy over here with the 2x4's
What are the emails about if I may ask??
I know you are right it's yesterday & today that are doing it. Oh no don't do that all 3 of you together again swingin my head still stings when I wash it from the splinters being pulled out LOL!
The emails are about her talking to her Aunt & a GF about how to handle the sitch with D17, 'normally' she would have 'bared' her feelings to me and that's eating at me just feel 'left out' that it's not my shoulder. Feeling selfish about it truth be known that is (or should I say was) my job, how can WAS just turn their feelings off? Don't answer that I know how.
I will be fine just need to regroup just venting thanks for listening
I think its called "self sustained chemicals of the female gender". O, sorry you didnt want a answer and I probably sound sexist. Sucks your W is roller coasting on you like it seems to be.
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The emails are about her talking to her Aunt & a GF about how to handle the sitch with D17, 'normally' she would have 'bared' her feelings to me and that's eating at me just feel 'left out' that it's not my shoulder.
Brian, I don't think it's abnormal for your W to seek out some female understanding from female relatives about Pap Smears, biopsy's and female problems..
Unless of course you're an expert on Pap Smears. LOL You gotta be like me..I know nothing about them or biopsies.
Now is the time for you to listen and learn. Validate and be there for them..
