Free drinks N_hill - I was never any good at that. My GF's would get freebies from men and bartenders at bars all the time. I think it is b/c I am flirting challenged... Sigh - now I have motivation to learn to flirt.
Hi Everyone:
We are going to try a 180 to address The Appearance Issue.
Several years ago I use to post about "diminishing" myself at work b/c upper level partners appreciated me and mid-level partners were threatened by me. Well - at one point I decided I was going for the brass ring - if someone is threatened by me that is THEIR problem and I shouldn't make it MY problem.
So let's apply that to my neighborhood. I posted about H's hitting on me, making comments that annoyed their W's, women annoyed by the attention I get sometimes. Well that would be THEIR Problem - and once again my diminishing myself I am making it MY Problem. The H hitting on me problem is done - I had to take some very direct action on that one - so they are too scared to hit on me anymore.
So here is the 180 - my wardrobe is a little limited at the moment b/c well with that whole The Bloat and The Bulge issue. But what if I decided to look nice everyday... What if I made it a goal to never leave the house w/o mascara and lipstick and powdering my nose. What if I upped the wardrobe from total casual to classy casual.
Men really don't seem to care. But women - well I am tired of being bullied by them. I am tired of the backward indirect pressure that I feel. So I am simply not going to even acknowledge it or take ownership of it.
So in that spirit, I am sucking in The Bulge to wear black/white capri pants and a black summer sweater with white sandals with 2 inch heels - which brings my height to 5' 11".
Oh yes - I decided to shower today - just kidding - I am not that bad. But hair down and even earrings! I feel like I am dressing for a prom! LOL!
Let's see how this works out. Women are tougher to take on than men. Men fight with you directly. You know where you stand. Some women do silly sneaky behind your back gossipy ganging up on you in packs thing. And they make snide comments that you can't always call them on or pin them down on. Sometimes you don't even know you are engaged in an undeclared war with till you hear about something that they said about you to someone else.
I have to take responsibility for allowing this behavior to intimidate me. These types of women are intimidated by attractive women - so it is time to be attractive. If you are going to be the subject of somewhat malicious gossip - well it is high time I gave them something to talk about.
