I spoke with Joann, and been following her advice here goes my story;
About a year ago, my wife told me I needed to work on my anger > management problems, going out partying with the boys had to be > less.. I > was also gambling and lying to cover my tracks. (I am in an intensive > program for that right now) > > > > Well long story short, I never got happy, I was getting mad at dumb > things, probably because I was holding in my feelings and it > would just > erupt. Never at her specifically. > > > > Anyways my wife told me May 20th, she wanted a divorce. I went > thru the > feelings of desperation, "I love you" "Please don't, I will get > the help > I need" and so on.. > > > > She is very angry with me, and has told me she even has begun to > resentme. > > > > We co-habitate in the house because we can't afford to move, so she > sleeps in the master bedroom, and I sleep in the spare. > > > > We hang out and watch a movie occasionally. I am in counseling > for my > anger management, and I completely stopped "partying" with the boys. > > > > Today the house might get listed. > > > > We hung out yesterday as I needed to pick out some new > glasses. The we > went to the gym. Then I started looking at sites like yours and > left the > browser open by accident. My wife asked why did you leave that open? > Those are things you should have been looking at a year ago. > > > > I know we are "soul-mates" .. and I am working on my corrective > behavior. > > > > She hasn't filed yet.. key word is yet.. > > > > Can you help me ? us? She wants no part of counseling, and > if I give > her any materials she likely will want no part of that either. > Last year > she made all kinds of suggestions but I didn't take it seriously > enough.Now I am committed to starting a family with her, but am > losing her. > > I started going to the gym this week, trying new things. She called me 2 days ago to ask me to wait for her so we could walk our dogs(small sign?)
