had to chime in here... Puppy is right. Sometimes we don't know what the heck we want, but being a "puppy" (no pun intended \:\) )
for her and letting her do whatever is not the way to go.

Im not saying you have to be mean, but for me I was more attracted to someone that was a challenge, more so then someone who catered to me. I know, we are strange creatures but unfortunately that's the way a lot of women are. I man that can't express his opinions or stand his ground on something he believes in, ISNT attractive.

I haven't read your entire stitch, but the heading caught my eye.

One thing I wanted to comment on thou you can still make her feel desirable without letting your guard down. This was major for me and my H. He started commenting on my looks, appearance and so on, and that made it better for me to become more "interested"

Just my .02

me: 37
H: 44
Married for 18 years this june
S7
S3
porn issues, and much more... since 7/06

Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.