I read your post and it sounded very similar to my situation. I am 27 and was married only 2 1/2 years. My husband was a bit older (34) and got a new job, his job consumed his life and he developed an emotional affair with a co worker. We have only been separated for 2 months but the marriage was bad for awhile while I was still in the house. I always had suspisions about this co worker but never confirmed. I recently took his daughter to the movies and she told me "daddy is with andrea right now." I confronted him and he denied it, but I don't believe him and to be honest I don't think you should either. Don't try and convince yourself he is telling the truth. Go with your gut and what you truly believe because that's the only thing that won't lie to you. The is a devastating situation, I know, I am living it. I am truly hurt and feel helpless. I feel like I am crying all the time and nothing really motivates me. I think to be honest, the best thing is no contact. I tried it for a bit and it was working and then I thought I was well enough to take his daughter to the movies. Well I got the shock of my life when she said that and it has set me back. All the pain and hurt came rushing back in just a few words and now I am back to where I started. Don't let that be you, get on with your life and as hard as it is move ahead. At least we are still in our twenties, we have lots of living left and this won't be our last heartbreak.
