New Abbreviation for everyone V

[karen43]

Wife was late for work this morning (15 min) she said she was tired. When I responded that we are all tired, she snapped back what don't your think that I work hard. I calmly said nothing other that you told me you would be here between 6:30 and 7am, and I walked out the door

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Jeff, I think it sounds like you were (are) angry with your W. I think your W sounds depressed (I'm starting to think many WAS are depressed) and looking for maybe empathy/sympathy for you. I think you can either choose to give it or just don't say anything maybe. I have to say as a sahm who hasn't been appreciated for anything in years, I am a little sympathetic/empathetic about this issue.

As always, I felt bad, so I called her from work under the guise that I needed to update her on some scheduling issues. She complained a lot about her boss, how much help they get with their one child. She told me how much she does for the kids and her parents never did anything like she does for our kids.(do you see ongoing complaint, how much help others get and she doesn't - how much she does for the kids that her parents didn't do for her). I hear this all the time.

I believe you already are helping her out quite a bit, but it sounds like she doesn't feel appreciated maybe? Again, either agree with her about her being a good mom/what she does for the kids or don't. Maybe if you expressed more comments like that or offered comments like that volunarily, she might not go fishing for them a lot?

FYI: W is taking kids to the pool today, so she'll be able to lay back and relax while kids play (really tuff life - don't work so hard)

Jeff, even going to the pool with kids is not always/usually the relaxing life!!!! I think you know that!!!

She said the kids are ignoring her, she will tell them to do something or stay put,. and they just ignore what she is telling them especially S5, her baby.

Kids will do that!!!! Again it sounds like she is wanting your understanding about that; did you give it?

but after I told her about the pastor pulling me aside, she said well I guess honesty is the best policy,[/b] I said what you have to be joking, honesty is the best policy you have to be joking, she said we all make mistakes. I said whatever and I have to go, and I ended to conversation.

[ I'm sorry but I laughed at that; WAS say the funniest (dumbest) things sometimes....what can you do, but try not to laugh out loud!!!

I was thinking about something and it is true, I cannot look my W in the eyes anymore, I avoid eye contact with her.

I've noticed my H and I avoid eye contact with each other. Don't know what that's about???

Jeff, sorry if I'm totally cranky with you!!! If she is bothering you and making you upset, which it sounds like, it might be best for you to avoid & ignore her, go dim, or whatever, but still be distantly friendly? Karen