Wife was late for work this morning (15 min) she said she was tired. When I responded that we are all tired, she snapped back what don't your think that I work hard. I calmly said nothing other that you told me you would be here between 6:30 and 7am, and I walked out the door.

As always, I felt bad, so I called her from work under the guise that I needed to update her on some scheduling issues. She complained a lot about her boss, how much help they get with their one child. She told me how much she does for the kids and her parents never did anything like she does for our kids.(do you see ongoing complaint, how much help others get and she doesn't - how much she does for the kids that her parents didn't do for her). I hear this all the time.

FYI: W is taking kids to the pool today, so she'll be able to lay back and relax while kids play (really tuff life - don't work so hard)

She said the kids are ignoring her, she will tell them to do something or stay put,. and they just ignore what she is telling them especially S5, her baby.

She told me her back still hurts her from falling down the stairs drunk several weeks back. She told me that her mother was over at the house last week (old news to me because the kids told me) she said she told her mom (old news to me because I knew her mom would see furniture gone and also neighbor told me).

She said I should tell my mom, I said ok I'll take care of it (old news for my mom). I told her that the pastor pulled me aside after mass on Sunday and asked if she left me, W said that was interesting, was wondering who was spreading rumors.

Now I was sympathetic up to this point, told her to take it easy, so she doesn't hurt her back, sympathetic about her not getting help like others do, sympathetic about her being tired and working hard, but after I told her about the pastor pulling me aside, she said well I guess honesty is the best policy, I said what you have to be joking, honesty is the best policy you have to be joking, she said we all make mistakes. I said whatever and I have to go, and I ended to conversation.

I am trying to ignore her, but that doesn't feel right, she wants to talk and tries to draw me into conversations, I feel like I should be sympathetic with her and forgiving, but then I get crap like honesty is the best policy I really don't know what to do with that.

I was thinking about something and it is true, I cannot look my W in the eyes anymore, I avoid eye contact with her.

We all have a long haul ahead of us, good or bad it's the path we choose in life that's important.

M45
W41
M10 3/4 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08
Date I'll forgive W for A = never