Originally Posted By: lynn97
Puppy is your story on her somewhere? I would love to read how you worked through it. You W sounds like mine, and I am also a thinker. I research and analyze every angle of everything...which probably gets me into these messes.

The biggest issue I'm having is do I fight or do I let her go. I know if I fight I can win, but is it really a win? Will she grow as a person so we can have a mature relationship? Can I let her go? Can I deal with her going farther into the OM arms? Will she come back to me or is he the one for her?

It's all so confusing.

Lynn


Lynn,

Read all of "Chocolateeyes" old threads:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...=1&fromsearch=1

I think you'll find our backgrounds, and our approach, remarkably similar.

Do you fight or let her go? That one's easy: you fight for your marriage, BY "letting her go" to a certain degree, and for fighting for her at the same time. Why?

1) God hates divorce;

2) YOU don't sound like you want to be divorced;

3) Your wife, believe it or not, is likely LOOKING for you to fight for her;

4) It will make you more attractive to her;

5) It will make you a better spouse to someone else in the future if this doesn't work out;

6) It's the right thing to do.

Puppy