thank you so much everyone! I really appreciate all the good wishes and kind words.
happy to say things are still going well here. H's IC is a good fit (yay!) and I'm working with some sahm friends of mine so I can continue mine over the summer (miss those free mornings when the kids are in school!). realizing some needs I have, like some time on my own that I learned to love when we were S. I haven't had that lately and have talked to h about it. nice to actually talk about this stuff...before I probably wouldn't have said anything, if I could even pinpoint my feelings. big difference. and he is more than happy to meet it (right, h?). basically our communication continues to be far better than it ever was.
other than that, kids are out of school and summer is here. looking forward to the plans we have both with the kids and without them...definitely another need we used to overlook, time together on our own. Not letting these things slip away again if I can help it.
Hope you all are doing well!
Last edited by SallyM; 06/17/0810:49 AM.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
I'm all for Sally's H not posting. When butterflymom's H posted there were some very outspoken people who could not refrain from calling him names and otherwise being ugly to him. The relationship is between 2 people. It is not good for a bunch of other people to get involved.
I agree - attacking them serves absolutely no purpose. I think it is a pretty brave thing to do!!!
On another board there are a few couples that post and it is really interesting to see their interactions and growth - which is why I asked. Hi jimmy - thanks for saying SOMETHING. You have a great W - but you know that
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Jimmy, like SallyM, has taken HUGE leaps to try and make their marriage and family whole again. Its not just the LBS that takes a leap of faith. Like Sally, Jimmy probably has fears of things not working out. But they are both in such a better place, and keeping communication open, the key to it all. Never let it get that bad again.
