Thanks for the wine in the morning (did you offer me some? I forget... Nope!! You just drunk it yourself...).
I had been for months beating myself up why I didn't or did those horrible things that brought me here during my marriage. And I was very mean with myself. But you know what? I had an equal amount of complaints about my H. Our difference was that I didn't "build" on the negatives. I focused on the positives. I never stopped thinking of a common future. I never questioned my decision to marry him. And I didn't quit. All couples have problems. Some of the couples around me have major issues that I know about. They are still together and want to be together. It is a choice. I know my H chose the easy -for him- way out. He decided instead of growing and maturing together, to just start all over again because we, his family, were too much work for him. Marriages fail. Unfortunately. But it is NOT always both to blame for (as my FIL conveniently says...). Kalni
