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[hoosiermama]

Good morning! I'm glad your surgeon "got it all." Yeah, I know what you mean about the colon prep--absolutely miserable! They have pills now, you take them every half hour or so; same results, but I guess the upside is that you don't have to drink vast quantities of yucky stuff.

Yes, it works well to combine nursing and pastoral work. I also dabble in case management (forgot to mention that) because these days, doctors aren't following patients like they used to and no one is overseeing the whole picture. I don't have a background in case management, but I'm learning. So I can do the visit, provide presence and prayer, sometimes a little HT, answer questions, evaluate "patient" and family and environment, determine if folks are realistic, help them make plans if they want, connect them with resources and follow up. Because they generally know me, or at least know of me, the trust level is already there and they tend to ask me things they won't ask the MD or the priest. We don't have any certifications here, and there isn't a lot of credentialling for what I do; I did do a unit of CPE. But since H is a CPE supervisor (and often seemed to forget I was a wife and not a student) I've lived it!

Definitely, some of the staff is there to be ministered TO--to have their egos fulfilled, to feed their control issues. It seems that another competent person on staff is very threatening to those things. I've fought it for several years, but recently it seems they don't just want to bug me, they want me gone and have convinced the clueless pastor of that too. On one hand, I hear what wonderful skills I have, on the other hand I hear from him all the things I'm not doing that he's wanted done. I'd have done them if he'd just communicated them, but I haven't had an evaluation in 5 years; when I've asked, he has said he doesn't have any idea what I'm supposed to be doing. But apparently I'm not doing it! So, it was just time to let that go.

Off to breakfast with a friend. Have a great day too!