Just adding my $.02. If you want an example of how NOT to do things, feel free to skim through my thread. I was the nice guy, trying to be friends, avoiding the obvious. I think if I'd stood up for my wife rather than been so suppliant, things would be different. I don't know that for sure, of course, but I definitely wonder.
Anyway, listen to Puppy. He offers great, concise advice. You'll have to balance that with what you're willing/can do, but you should still listen.
