My focus now is on happiness within myself and in my marriage. I won't give it 7-10 years, but I will give it 6 mos- 1 year. I am unhappy and being unhappy is not good for my child. I need a time frame so that I don't stay in something "just to get through the day" and wake up 10 years later and realize that nothing ever changed.
I think one thing you and my H have in common is that you seem to be looking elsewhere for happiness: your marriage, children, the OP, etc. I think you will be unhappy until you make yourself happy. You won't be happy with OM, your marriage, or anything. I used to be like that, too, I thought if H changed then I'd be happy or if I had a different house I'd be happy. I didn't know that I had to make myself happy first. Now I've realized I can be happy with anyone anywhere (well I do need my kids though)! I would give up the OM and spend your time GALing and trying to make yourself happy; I think that is the only way you will ever really be happy. I think the OM is just a distraction. Karen
I would give up the OM and spend your time GALing and trying to make yourself happy; I think that is the only way you will ever really be happy. I think the OM is just a distraction. Karen