Quote: she said that if I really needed some to go find some
Difficult to say whether she is just testing you or very emotionally detached from you.
RandyH, you are obviously not happy with the lack of progress though you appreciate being together alot of the time. Have you considered investing in some professional advice to see if there is something that you can do/try/change to bring her emotionally closer?
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"It's better to have no spouse than have a bad spouse"
Forget the professional advice. She is slowly moving closer to you. Mentioning sex is a positive, no matter what her intentions. She is getting flirty. She is staying over. Do exactly what you have been doing, i.e. continue to be patient. It appears to be working. It is much better for this to happen slowly than quickly.
Thanks for the replys,last night she brought something up and I said something about being back and she said she wasn't\ back and I told her in a calm manner that if she wasn't at least thinking about about coming back or testing the water then we needed to be doing something different because I was'nt going through all the same stuff again,she stayed all night.I don't know why she won't admit she is thinking about coming back.
Randy - I just read some of your thread and picked up on a point
Quote: she doesn't show hardly any affection and really nothing physical.She says it's the AD's
Your Wife may be correct about the AD's - My wife (now ex-wife as of Tuesday - guess I will have to get use to that) told me that her Doctor told her that the ADs will cause her to loose emotional and sexual drive. She did say though that the Dr told her she should be off of them after the holidays. Keep DBing so that when she gets off of the AD's you will be there and ready. ODGA
Had another good weekend,XW stayed all weekend and we had a really good time.I did let her know in a note that I needed some things to have a good R and I hoped she would work on these.She didn't say anything about it but it didn't seem to upset her. So we will have to see what happens
Basicly thanking her for working so hard and that I was glad we were spending time together.I also told her how that it hurt me that she didn't feel like touching me or doing romatic things together but that i was giving her time to work things out. I know she is thinking or she wouldn't be there because she isn't gaining anything other than being with us as a family she pays for part of stuff and basicly it is just like we were "together" except we aren't physically involved.If I could just figure out what is up with this
You can't figure up what's up with this stuff, so don't even try. Accept the fact that you have made a conscious decision to be there until she figures out what is going on. Also, since you have said your piece, the ball is in her court. Don't press her. Be cool, dude.
