Watching the kids while W goes to OM

[lynn97]

Puppy you are a very wise person, and I am a very thick headed person.

I went to see a counselor today and he helped me reach the same conclusion. Being a doormat is not helping me grow at all. Also that it's not my fault for the affair, that is her fault. I have been treating her like a princess and I've been doing it throughout our marriage. This is why it hasn't been that good of a marriage in the first place. I kept trying to fix her, make her happy. I realize now that's not my job. She has to fix herself and make herself happy. And in the end I'm guessing that the OM can't make her happy either. That is her journey that she just keeps refusing to take.

I'm going to work out a few things in my head before I have the talk with her, and probably one more counseling session, but it's time to start looking out for me now. It's her choice to see him, but it's my choice to enable her.

I did reread the posts. Yes, you were right all along. I guess it just took me this long to get clarity to see it. Thank you

Lynn