Number 8, still too late for DB to work.

[newnamenewlife]

I just read this whole thread CW. What a rollercoaster you are on, you poor thing. I have the same H as you and 7 year itch. My H never ONCE explicitly said he was unhappy in our M and wanted to address it. He let it build up and then snapped and now feels he simply has no choice in the matter at all. He must leave. Working on our M is and has been out of the question for him since the bomb.

I'm also following in your footsteps--at the 8 month mark. H wants to leave July 1 but has not even looked at apts yet. He wants us to tell our Ds on Friday. The thought of that makes me just miserable beyond description. I literally shake when I think of sitting there as he tells them. I'm really worried that I just won't be able to do it.

I was feeling like I could handle it, had grieved and was even kind of looking forward to certain things, like having a few days/nights to myself every week (when Ds are with him) and starting over. But at the mediator's today we were talking about who would get the kids over July 4th and it just hit me like a TON OF BRICKS that this is it--we'll never vacation as a family again. I was overwhelmed with sadness--but there was H, unmoved and busily scribbling on his calendar.

What kind of MC is your H talking about? I know there are workshops on co-parenting when you're divorced. Is that what he's talking about?