I would if I knew how,I have changed so many things and XW is on ADs now.She stays almost every night at my house and we plan things together for the weekends,we are together all the time.i get home from work and she is there making supper or hanging out.We aren't sleeping together yet but she is staying over and that hasn't happened in 3 years. I think she has a time set in her head that if everything is going ok by then ,then she will get into a R.The other night she said something about she wasn't sure yet because we had been only kind of seeing each other for 6 months. Things are getting better,I mean she asked me to touch her more now even if it's only to rub her feet or massages.