Anita,I just read your post on elwoods,you might be here if you got away from om.I wouldn't be giving you the time of day either and that the other guy is into drugs and you and your kid are there,wake up get away,sorry to sound so harsh.What happens if he gets busted at home and you are there,you will go to jail and your kid to social services.If you want your marriage then prove it to H.As for me xw says she still isn't ready for a serious R but I have to figure out what she wants from me.I really think she wants to make something but on her terms.