I'm not sure I've ever posted to you before but I've "seen" you.. on Gyspy's thread!
I'd like to pipe in on the sex thing if I may. I have had relations with my WAH in the past.. I was thinking that we had premarital s*x (which please no 2 x 4's for that!) so if I was to consider myself dating my H I think it would be very likely that he wouldn't always sleep with me after s*x.
The s*x seemed very primal in the beginning.. and although it's been a while now since the last time.. it was much more "intimate".. more "affectionate" at that point then it was in the beginning after the bomb.
You know what boundaries shouldn't be crossed for you. Do what feels right to you in your heart. I'm not the best example since I need to create more boundaries in my sitch I think.. but thought I should tell you I've been there and done that too!
Hugs, W2G
PS. Funny that you and I are both 2 years older than our H's.. I will be 35 later this year and my H will be 33 later this year too.
I just want to vote for keeping the sex alive as long as you enjoy it. For my relationship it was the most important tie between us. If I had let that go, we would never have reconciled. I knew as long as I could keep the contest in the bedroom, OW didn't stand a chance. I mean, I had beaten her 28 years ago, so what was different now?
Thanks for stopping by, my friends! And, thanks for the feedback. I will continue to do 'it, because I enjoy it and feel like it's the one tiny thing that we have together. Also, I don't want sex to be that three letter word... "huh?" (Sorry, Gypsy!) Next time he initiates, I will be asking him to stay upstairs.
Cookie,
I didn't get to go kayaking on Sunday due to a medical emergency Mister B was having. Turned out to be nothing, but my veterinarian sister told me he was "probably going to die" so I didn't feel right leaving him to die alone. He's at the vet's today undergoing some detailed testing. He's a survivor, that little cat.
Not much else to report, but I would love to start organizing a DB GAL WWR (whitewater rafting) Trip. Who's game?
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Forgiveness is a choice, and I choose to forgive you for your comment on Sugar and Spice's thread. =)
We could make the trip anywhere. I was kind of thinking of a California river, but it doesn't have to be... probably not the Colorado River because most trips are several days long. I thought a full day trip would be ideal. To me, the Merced or Tuolumne would be a great choice - one runs through Yosemite National Park and is just breathtakingly beautiful. Any suggestions? Lodo and gForce are up for it. Probably early August or early September. Wanna come???
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
I've got no idea if it is doable, but I would sure be interested in trying to figure it out! I'll have to check out the calendar, and all that good stuff! It has to be easy, because I am CLUELESS!
But, it is very tempting. Now I have to practice telling my W.... I'm going kayaking with a bunch of friends. You aren't invited. See you!
Forgiveness is a choice, and I choose to forgive you for your comment on Sugar and Spice's thread. =)
We could make the trip anywhere. I was kind of thinking of a California river, but it doesn't have to be... probably not the Colorado River because most trips are several days long. I thought a full day trip would be ideal. To me, the Merced or Tuolumne would be a great choice - one runs through Yosemite National Park and is just breathtakingly beautiful. Any suggestions? Lodo and gForce are up for it. Probably early August or early September. Wanna come???
Girl, would you guys keep me informed on this if it's serious..I don't know if I could do it or not but would sure like to.
hey, girl, haven't stopped by in awhile. Had to go back and find out who your OM was.
H and I have been intimate on and off through this whole mess. I only refused him when he was sexually involved with OW. Surprisingly he has been very honest about those times. I know what you mean about feeling used when he goes to sleep downstairs. Usually when H and I were intimate, it would be downstairs, he felt uncomfortable in our married bed. I just stayed downstairs with him. When we did end up upstairs, he usually stayed up there.
Bottom line, I think Sara is right (and she has always told me the same thing!), that if you are comfortable with it, there is nothing wrong with having sex with your husband!
