Oh my God Emma reading your post was almost like my situation--except for the sex part. Divorced three years and alot of people still don't know that we have ever been divorced. We all go to church together and always at school functions together. I just got my own aprt- no more OM and I feel like we are still married. I'm glad I came across your post! I'm not the only one!!! I often wonder--after three years divorced is it possible to rebuild and start a new marriage