Secrets cause stress.....and could be what drove him to do some of what he did. Sex to forget about money problems or spending to forget about being unfaithful???Where is the beginning and where is the end??? That's why I think help may be needed.

I would think this is the very beginning of another journey for you.

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength